Rewrite the Story of Your Past
It would be naive and harmful to pretend the abuse of my childhood didn’t happen or that its effects weren’t real. It brought confusion, stunted my growth into manhood, and led...
June Belonged to Me and My Dad
Before the overlay of Pride, June belonged solely to me and my dad. It contains Father’s Day, my birthday, and his. My birthday fell on Father’s Day this year. My wife was out of...
Dear Younger Me – Bruce
Dear Younger Me, I want to give you an essential truth. If I had known it at your age, it would have transformed the way I lived. Please receive it and believe it. Your life will...
Rewrite Your Rules of Success
I was not the coolest kid. I can prove it. True story: I was on the brink of starting high school after our family moved to the city. I stepped into a church van with guys from...
Make Your Purpose a Must
Lewis Howes, author and host of The School of Greatness podcast, said “The greatest crime we can commit is going to bed without a dream and getting up without a purpose.” WHAT...
Dear Younger Me – Ken
Dear Younger Me, I was asked to write a letter to you, Kenny, and I hope you will hear and receive my words. Kenny, I look back and see how lonely and afraid you were during most...
Own Your Identity
What you say after the words “I am” is the most important thing about you. A FRAGILE SHELL My mom has been teaching my daughters how to decorate blown eggs. They put scotch...
Discard Shame
Two years ago, God gave me a picture of the ground beneath me as thick mud. Just a couple inches. Sometimes saturated with water, sucking at my shoes and making that awful...
Fear Magnifies Your Same-Sex Attractions
Fear makes things bigger. It’s the shadow of a bedside toy looming as a monster on the wall. It grows with time, exaggerates risk, fosters isolation, and veils your...
Demystify Your Attractions
Attraction is multifaceted. It comes in all shapes and sizes. By identifying the attractions we feel, we remind ourselves they are simply experiences. They do not define who we...
My Story
I don’t have what it takes to be a man. That’s what I told myself. I have a vivid memory of my dad and me wrestling. He called it wrestling. I know now it was...
Choose Your Frequency
Have negative thoughts snowballed on you? The more attention and influence I give them, the louder and more frequent they become. I get tuned in to them. Here is an analogy I...
Embrace Pursuit to Live Fully Alive
I want to live full out. That has been my desire and God’s design but often not my experience. When I honor and learn from both my healthy and unhealthy pursuits, I open myself...
Leverage Your Same-Sex Attraction for Personal Growth
When I discovered my same-sex attraction, I believed it was the nail in the coffin to achieving the masculinity I had dedicated time to study and model. SSA was a big “F” on my...
How to Redirect Desire by Owning Your Emotions
In my last blog post, I described a day in which I first felt intense physical desire toward another man. My mind and body felt certain that acting on those desires would provide...
Harness Mindfulness to Neutralize Same-Sex Attraction
For many years, I was on the defensive against my same-sex attractions and strong emotions. My desire to deny and avoid them kept me from being mindful of my thoughts and...
Why Your Same-Sex Attractions are Not a Problem
Problems standing in the way of achieving a goal need a solution. Your same-sex attractions, on the other hand, don’t need to be solved. They are just experiences you are having...